The Paradox of Loneliness

Most of us will experience loneliness at some point in our lives. We spend most of our lives trying to run away from it, socialising, having friends and lovers, going to bars, concerts and immersing ourselves in our work. We do anything so we don’t have to be alone. Through difficult times such as the pandemic, however, we have been given no other choice but to confront this inner state.

The problem is that the moment we start to confront it, we begin to feel a fear. It is difficult to pinpoint exactly what this fear is, but we just feel uneasy. Being alone and having no control over circumstance is something we are not used to. The mind starts to get active and begins to think of stories, victim identities, people and things to blame, as well as potential solutions to get us out of this apparent misery.

It is sometimes not possible to execute many of these. We are at the mercy of something bigger than ourselves. The truth is that we have very little control. There is really no other choice but to move out of resistance and step into allowance.

I invite you to move into full allowance of these feelings. Because when you finally arrive at the centre of that feeling, you will find something beautiful that awaits you. Something more rewarding than any activity or person. You will find a pure presence, an energy that has no form or name, you will find your essence. And with it you comes a joy, your own space, your own eternal home where you belong and always fit in. You may become aware of an energy and strength that leads to an inner blossoming like a flower.

This loneliness can be your greatest challenge but also your greatest achievement. There is nothing dark and dismal about it. Nothing is missing. There is no gap to fill. In your aloneness you can become aware of the fullness of the moment, and of the beauty, bliss and magnificence of who you are. This can be a wonderful opportunity even though it may seem to be the opposite.

With much love 

Madhuri

Woods - Picture taken by Madhuri Fichtmüller -  Copyright 2020